Seven Questions Women Ask About Promise Keepers
Thank you for your interest in Promise Keepers. One of the reasons a man comes to Promise Keepers is because of the women in his life. Men want to be better husbands, stronger fathers. They want closer friendships and to be a vital part of a community. We've discovered that most men deeply desire to be men of their word... men of
We've chosen 7 of the most Frequently Asked Questions from Women about Promise Keepers:
1. What is Promise Keepers?Established in 1990, Promise Keepers is a ministry designed to ignite and unite men to become passionate followers of Jesus Christ through the effective communication of seven promises to God, other men, their family, their church and their community. Although Promise Keepers is a Christian organisation, all men are welcome to come to the Events.
The men gather on Friday evening and all day Saturday to hear excellent Christian speakers on a variety of topics related to the seven promises. Along with praise and worship, the interaction has proven to be dynamic!
Since 1994, Promise Keepers NZ has directly reached more than 75,000 men through our annual Men’s Events in New Zealand.
Promise Keepers' vision is simple: Ordinary Guys Transformed into Extraordinary Men! The Events are designed to awaken men to their full potential and inspire them to commit to an ongoing process of change, character building and integrity. For more information see About Us.
2. Can women attend Promise Keepers Men’s Events?
These Events are especially designed for men. We have found that men are more apt to receive the content of the message in the company of other men compared to a mixed gender setting. Promise Keepers' program is aimed at the hearts of men, using language, illustrations, and experiences that are commonly understood by men.
Over the years, we have found that men tend to feel much freer and more open in expressing celebration and other emotions in the company of other men. At Promise Keepers, this predominately male setting is referred to as "the masculine context". There is nothing secretive or “anti-women” in the content of these Events. All sessions are available on CD / DVD. There is simply a need to preserve the special character and dynamic of the Event by creating a place where men can open up and be free to receive ideas in a “safe” environment.
|Many women graciously volunteer to help in the various areas of production and support at all our Events. They are highly appreciated and their help is gratefully received. It is important to note that thousands of women pray each year for every one of our Event cities.
3. Is Promise Keepers only for married men, or will it benefit men who are not married, i.e. fiancé or boyfriend?
Promise Keepers Events have something for every man. While most men who attend Promise Keepers are married, many single men (including widowed and divorced men) report that insights gained at Promise Keepers Events give them a greater understanding in relating to God and in other significant relationships.
Promise Keepers recognises that one size doesn’t fit all, so we have developed targeted breakouts for men at different life stages:
Transition (young men 11-17 years) Today tremendous advances in technological communications and media often draw us away from what is really important in life. Transition lays a clear pathway for young men to move forward in their journey of faith in God, and challenges them to live a life of meaning and purpose.
Stance (young men 18-30 years) Young men face major life-shaping decisions about their career path, finances, friendships, sexuality, and finding the right spouse. The magnitude and number of these choices can cause a confidence crisis. Stance looks at the vital part faith plays in navigating these important decisions and brings practical tools needed for success.
Single Focus (single men 30+ years) This breakout focuses on the unique and distinctive challenges that single men face and equips them, in a lively environment of discussion and interaction, to thrive and not just survive in their situation. Many tell us this is the highlight of their Promise Keepers weekend.
4. How old should a young man be to attend a Promise Keepers Event?
Because of the length of the program, Promise Keepers suggests that guys no younger than 11 attend. They often benefit from the "bonding" time with their dads and other men.
There is also the “Transition” Youth Event on the Saturday afternoon of the Event. Young men aged 11 to 17 years have the option of attending the Transition Event only, or both Transition and the main Promise Keepers Event. See www.transition.org.nz Manhood and issues of sexual purity are addressed, so as well as the age guideline, parents should consider how appropriate this content is to the development level of their son/s. Promise Keepers encourages fathers to relate actively with their daughters equally as much as with their sons.
5. How can I encourage the man in my life to attend a Promise Keepers Event?
Be sensitive that any suggestion or recommendation might be received as a criticism by a man who is defensive. Nevertheless, encourage him to spend time with other Christian men in the setting of a Promise Keepers Event. Suggest he use the weekend as a "father-son" event, or a good opportunity to spend time with his own father or father-in-law. Or suggest that he may wish to go alone, join a church group or work group, or just go with a friend.
6. What should I expect from my man after he has attended a Promise Keepers Event?
It takes most men some time to process the things they experience at a Promise Keepers Event (including worship, personal prayer, confession, repentance, forgiveness, spiritual reflection, etc). Change and growth often take time.
While a Promise Keepers Event can jump-start a man's spiritual life, it takes more than a weekend with the guys to transform his heart and life. A large meal won't feed you for a lifetime.
Men are encouraged to personally pray for wisdom and strength as they begin their journey in following the seven promises. In any relationship, usually both people need to make some adaptations for meaningful change to take place. Also, Promise Keepers encourages men to join a Men’s Small Group as the best way to continue the process of transformation and spiritual growth. Your encouragement and release of time will help this. You can expect that you will need to continue to pray for him as well.
7. Is Promise Keepers Anti-Women?
Definitely not! We believe that men and women are equal at the foot of the Cross. Promise Keepers strives to promote reconciliation between family members, genders, races and denominations as well as between men and God. Unfortunately some past negative publicity from feminists in the secular media has influenced even some Christians (men and women). Promise Keepers would prefer to be judged on our record and the facts. Some of our strongest supporters are women because they appreciate the amount of positive change in their men: fathers, husbands, sons and others.
PK is just awesome. My husband has been 4 times and each time he comes back with an ignited soul, and looks so refreshed. He has learnt so much about how to walk with God and be the head of our family. Thank you for inspiring and encouraging him, as men do need encouragement. PK encourages men to face their failures, bring them out in the open and walk on with God with a stronger faith, as my husband is an example of that. Thank you.